“I thought love was only true in fairy tales meant for someone else but not for me.”

“I’m A Believer”

I thought love was
Only true in fairy tales
Meant for someone else
But not for me
Love was out to get to me
That’s the way it seems
Disappointment haunted
All my dreams

And then I saw her face
Now I’m a believer
Not a trace
Of doubt in my mind
I’m in love
I’m a believer
I couldn’t leave her
If I tried

I thought love was
More or less a given thing
But the more I gave the less
I got, oh yeah
What’s the use in trying
All you get is pain
When I wanted sunshine
I got rain

And then I saw her face
Now I’m a believer
Not a trace
Of doubt in my mind
I’m in love
I’m a believer
I couldn’t leave her
If I tried

What’s the use in trying
All you get is pain
When I wanted sunshine
I got rain

And then I saw her face
Now I’m a believer
Not a trace
Of doubt in my mind
I’m in love
I’m a believer
I couldn’t leave her
If I tried

Then I saw her face
Now I’m a believer
Not a trace
Of doubt in my mind
Now I’m a believer
Yeah, yeah, yeah
Yeah, yeah, yeah
I’m a believer
I’m a believer
I’m a believer

“I’m A Believer”
Smash Mouth


“I thought love was only true in fairy tales meant for someone else but not for me.”

Those words were going through my head the other day, probably because it was playing on my iPhone via Pandora. In my life I have told 4 women the words of “I Love You,” Well, I’ve told many more but they are related to me by blood so that is a little different. It is something that I don’t take lightly. It has been about 650 days since I’ve told another person that. I’m not keeping track, I just now how to Google. I am in IT and I am very good at what I do. I am also a dang good Googler. Enough about me, more about these song lyrics.

Hopeless Romantic?

I may be defined as a hopeless romantic but only because those who try but fail many times may be seen as desperate. I am not desperate nor hopeless. I know what I want and am not afraid to wait for it.

I have also been asked why I am on so much social media and I’ve been called narcissistic because I like taking pictures of myself but the truth is I am not afraid to put myself out there. I may be afraid to pick up a woman at a bar, but definitely not afraid to make matches via a dating app and meet them at a bar.

Unfortunately the days of meeting people in person are long past and may never come back. Those days didn’t have the internet, Google, Facebook, Plenty of Fish (POF.com), or Match.com. The world was a much smaller place then.

Meeting in Person

My parents met at a church camp one summer in high school and are still together to this day. For that I am very grateful. Many of my friends parents aren’t together. I was married and now divorced. Many of my friends have been married and are now divorced. I don’t wear that as a badge of honor. I own it and have move past and am trying to make it right the next time and make sure I don’t make the same mistake next time. Make sure I choose the right woman to stay in my life for the rest of my life.

I have had this idea of writing one page on this website that would tie all my dating apps together and allow me to explain who I am and not have to worry about how many pictures the app allows or any limitations. If you see my profile and go to that link you will know everything about me and then you can decide to swipe right or left on me. I think that is a wonderful idea. The last sentence is redundant because I came up with the idea and of course I think said idea is wonderful. Why would I think my ideas are dumb? I would never state them publicly if I thought that…tangent.

 

 

Mark All as Read vs Run Rules Now

I use the UNREAD items in my mailbox as a task for things to do. I also use the RULES to manage my mail into useful folders. WHY is the ‘Mark All as Read’ right next to the “Run Rules Now”??? You evil dirty little trickster!

Now I went from “I don’t know how many” to ZERO unread items. It almost makes me feel like I got all my work done today! NOOOOOOooooooo!

In case you want sound!

I am officially MIGRATED!

So now I am happy with the new hosting package with LuckyRegister/Godaddy as I finally got this domain name migrated over. Another big one with AwakeningYouthMinistries.com and then I can finally get rid of my secondary host and not pay two each month!

Now I can blog until my heart’s content…which probably won’t be any time soon.

The plan is to combine all my old blogs into this one to have one location for everything. It will ruin my historical SEO with Google but make things A LOT easier to manage.

I have had my own website for 14 years and that is a lot of my stuff indexed by Google.

Although this was captured on July 5, 2007 and not one of the first designs I had, this is an example of what is out there. July 5, 2007 – https://web.archive.org/web/20070705115011/http://home.icwnow.com:80/

Here is the first instance of any of my webpages. NOT when it was first released 1 year prior, but as far back as the Internet Archive knows.

December 16, 2005 – https://web.archive.org/web/20051216145639/http://www.indycrewworld.com:80/

Motivation

I need to write more and more often. Less TV time, more blog time. This is my motivation, my accountability, my desire.

“Make it so.”

-Captain Jean-Luc Picard

Silly Adulting, New Year’s Resolutions Are For Kids

New Year’s Resolutions Are For Kids

I don’t like making New Year’s Resolutions because like everyone else they usually don’t happen. I jokingly did make a resolution last year on NYE. After spending the whole night playing 7th wheel, I decided that sucked so I wasn’t going to do that again this year. I did have someone to kiss on NYE. I was happy! I had my brother and his girlfriend in town from California (no, they weren’t the ones I kissed).

Better Adulting…

I work a lot and try to stay off the computer when I am home but that has only forced me to spend too much time in front of the TV. I am seriously debating cancelling my TV service. I didn’t have TV for years. I would just pay for internet and that was it. I added AT&T U-verse when I moved to this new apartment because it was actually cheaper to get TV, Internet, and my mobile phone bundled than the previous Time Warner Internet and AT&T Phone. Believe me, I did the math several times to get the best deal. Because of this, I stopped streaming TV to my computer and started recording on my DVR.

Side note, I am not really sure sometimes when to include a comma so I think I put too many in my sentences. If that is grammatically incorrect then please feel free to tell me. I know I have some Grammar Nazi friends who will gladly point out my flaws.

I have always been a fan of Security Now podcast by Steve Gibson and Leo Laporte on Twit.TV but wanted to try some additional car listening stuff. I love music but I love learning more. I started listening to Joe Rogan Experience and while he throws plenty of F bombs around he has some really interesting guests. The one thing I recently heard him say was that to change things you need to change your focus. My focus has been on working, coming home, feeding and letting out the dog, and then sitting down in front of the TV. I keep my weekdays busy with a small group, trivia, volleyball, and of course my son. But, I have been spending way too much time on the couch. I pay for a gym membership that I haven’t stepped foot in for about 7 months. It kills me that I don’t go back. I hope that by writing more on here that I can redirect my focus effectively and get back into a healthier routine and not so many hours in front of the tube. For those who are too young to remember ‘the tube’ does not reference YouTube. (shameless plug for my own YouTube channel) I just got distracted by several videos on this channel.

Before I forget, I would like to give a shout out to my fellow IT comrade and friend Messy. I am not sure if he wants hit full name shared because I don’t see it on his blog. His blog is 1amm3.com which stands for I AM ME. He writes about his thoughts as I do on here. I helped him get his blog started and he has encouraged me to put more time into mine. I have been doing my own website since December 2004 but this last year I have been encouraged to write more on here and I attribute that to Mr. Messy. Go read his stuff, very interesting.

I just realized it is 12:30 and I need to go to bed. I have been writing this blog and migrating files all night since I got home. I did stop to eat so that’s good.

The last thing I wanted to say is that while I hate New Year’s Resolutions, I did tell myself I wanted to write on this blog daily. So far there have been two blog entries in 17 days so maybe my daily will turn into weekly, but I do want to get my thoughts down on here to keep myself accountable to doing better things. I want to have a better life style over all and that means starting with keeping track of my thoughts on my blog. I don’t even care if any one reads.

And since it is 12:30am, I am not going to take the extra time to add pictures to this one, sorry.

 

Website Migration

So I have had my own website for years and have moved it once before to a new host because the previous one had interesting definition for “unlimited” disk space. Image if you advertised UNLIMITED DISK SPACE but shut off a website after it reached 40 gigs? I presume you would love a ton of business. Well, they lost mine. I went to Luck Register which is a reseller of GoDaddy. I have been very happy with them. Last year I was told that the hosting platform I was on was outdated and I started getting notifications from WordPress that I could have a faster website which really mean more reliable if you get it off this antiquated hosting if you move it. I decided to do buy a new hosting package and have been paying for two for a year. I know the move would be a daunting one so I put it off and put it off. I am not at the point that I am tired of paying for two hosts and need to migrate the one to the other. I know this process would suck and boy does it ever! I have plan playing with this for the last two days and just when I think I am getting somewhere something fails.

I was getting frustrated so I decided to take a break and write this on here.

This was not meant as a bashing of PowWeb but more of a praising of LuckRegister and GoDaddy. They have both been very good to me over the last few years and their prices are inline as well. I only got connected to LuckyRegister because I was looking for competitive prices to GoDaddy. Little did I know at the time that they are a reseller of GoDaddy and offer lower prices on .COM domains than GoDaddy because they buy them at wholesale and resell them at prices lower than GoDaddy’s resale. The cool thing is that any support I need I just call GoDaddy and I am taken care of.

Now that I have vented about that, I think it is time to get back to migration attempts…

 

Things I need to finish

I have started several blog postings and never finish them. I have great ideas and sometimes even get out of bed to start writing because I don’t want to lose the train of thought. I need some motivation to pick up some of these postings and finish writing them. Most of them just need a little graphic to tie it altogether. People who write novels as blog entries and never add any graphic material tend to bore me. You need a picture to break things up.

And I don’t mean graphic like bloody or nude. I am talking about an image. Get your mind out of the gutter.


graph·ic
ˈɡrafik/
adjective
adjective: graphic
  1. relating to visual art, especially involving drawing, engraving, or lettering.
    “his mature graphic work”
    synonyms: visualsymbolicpictorialillustrativediagrammaticMore
    • giving a vivid picture with explicit detail.
      “he gave a graphic description of the torture”
      synonyms: vividexplicitexpressivedetailedMore
    • COMPUTING
      relating to or denoting a visual image.
      “graphic information such as charts and diagrams”
  2. of or in the form of a graph.
  3. GEOLOGY
    of or denoting rocks having a surface texture resembling cuneiform writing.
noun

COMPUTING
noun: graphic; plural noun: graphics
  1. a graphical item displayed on a screen or stored as data.
    synonyms: pictureillustrationimage

     


 

Facebook makes it easier to find people…

    

So a while ago I posted this short article about how easy it was to find someone on Facebook using just their cell phone number. Facebook recently rolled out some updates over that recent past that makes it quite trivial to find people. You can now narrow down your people search by knowing a few public details about them. You should also check out my online dating philosophy posting.

I am not a stalker. I am a great “Googler”. The internet makes it very easy to find people. There is too much public information about you that makes it very easy. There are plenty paid services out there but I have never paid anyone a dime.

How did I stumble upon this?

I am single. I have several profiles on different online dating sites that I use as tools to hopefully find that next last relationship. I am a romantic at heart and believe that there is that special someone out there for me. I have had a few really good relationships but for one reason or another it didn’t last. I am 33 and know my search is not over. I just don’t have that high school sweet heart story. My story will most likely end in a few years when I find that special girl who I end up spending the rest of my life with and we met when I was mid-30’s. I feel, at this point in time, I don’t have a lot of time to waste on someone who is not legit. If you are honestly looking for a real relationship like I am then that is where I start. I am not on any dating app to mess around. I also have a very proud career in IT and love what I do. I know how to use a computer and the internet more than most and am not ashamed to say that. It is literally what I get paid to do. I get paid to know more than you. I love learning new things and this is the perfect ever-changing industry that never fails to teach me something new. I am also  very visual person. I want to know who I am talking to on the phone, so if I am able I will probably plug your name into Facebook to see your face while I am chatting with you. Sue me! The resources are there and I will use them.

People might call that stalking but that is silly. I wouldn’t call you a professional race car driver because you have a car, or an electrician because you turned on the light bulb. Those are both horrible analogies but for now that is the best I can think of.

How does that all fit together?

Before I would match a girl and hopefully exchange phone numbers. This served two points. The first was that texting is a ton easier than having to open an app that constantly wants your money. Texting on my phone doesn’t annoy me and short of calling is probably the easiest form of communication. Chatting through the app, depending on the app, can be quite annoying. I already have enough notifications on my phone. I don’t need another app going off like crazy when I am trying to have a meaningful conversation. The second point is that about 60-70% of the time I could see your profile on Facebook and tell if you are a real person, and if you are trying to catfish me by what is on your dating profile. People put their very best pictures on dating sites because they are trying to impress. Even if that means a picture that is several years old and maybe many pounds lighter. Most people update their Facebook profile much more often and your profile picture is one of many things that is public by default.

What has Facebook changed?

Everyone knows that for the most part your profile is private so that you have to be connected as “friends” to see what is shared. Yes, I know you are able to share things publicly and could have a very open profile. Facebook would love that! More data for them to mine about you and sell to advertisers to generate revenue. Now you can type a name into the search bar and Facebook will give you some options to narrow down your search like city, employer, school, and degree of separation from you (friend, friend of friend, mutual friend, anyone). You can’t have a Tinder account unless you connect it to Facebook. Bumble links to Facebook as well to pull initial information. POF (Plenty of Fish) has text blocks for location and profession.  CMB (Coffee Meets Bagel) has the same but ask for ‘Employer.’ The main difference is that POF doesn’t share your name (first name only) unless you tell it to. CMB doesn’t share your name (first name only) until you match with someone.

With a name, city, I can narrow down a Facebook search pretty well. Tag on an employer and almost 100% positive match.

The different dating apps/sites have different amount of pictures you can upload for free, ranging from 6 to 9. Quite often someone will share a picture on their dating app that they have also had as a current or previous Facebook profile picture.

One more method of matching a dating profile to a Facebook profile. Instead of showing your name it shows your screen name. Guess what other sites have screen names searchable? Almost every single online profile out there, including Facebook. If your screen name is “Jason13115” and I plug it into Facebook or even just facebook.com/jason13115 it will show your public profile because Facebook makes your profile URL the same as your profile name. Remember back when Facebook asked you to setup a custom username instead of ‘Profile ID 23324621’?

Side note: Jason13115 was my first ever username/screen name/handle on AOL when I was 13 (or better – ASL 13/m/IN)

Side note, you can log into Facebook with either your email, screen name, or phone number with the same password. You have to allow this and authenticate your phone number but it will work. It also helps to be able to reset a password if you have multiple verification methods.

In conclusion:

Do you think I am a stalker or do you think I am just a smart guy sharing some information that is helpful. If you were smart you would update your Facebook profile and change your privacy settings. Anything you have set to public is pretty much searchable on the world wide web. Your Facebook profile is cached in Google and they would love to know as much about you as they can.

Examples of two recent proof of concepts:

  

I love this site – http://bit.ly/2qVI92R – especially when I am wanting to be facetious (/fəˈsēSHəs/).

Love and Relationships

Turning over a new leaf is an odd saying. I feel like being single sucks. Anyone who says they like it is just lying to theirself. God put us here to be with somebody and we were never meant to be alone. While I don’t believe that means that we have to be with someone every second of the day it does mean that we are meant to enjoy this life with someone else. It means we are meant to care for another more than we care for ourselves. The Greeks had several words for Love and one of those is the love you have for your partner. We all ‘love’ our family, we ‘love’ our friends, we are supposed to ‘love’ our neighbors; but these don’t compare to the love that we have for that special someone. I am fairly certain I have felt this love for a couple people in my life. I can’t reminisce on those because for one reason or another they are not in my life. I was married once and would like to think it was happy and loving at some point or else why did I say, “I do”? For now and probably until Kingdom comes I will not have happy thoughts because of how it ended; not that it ended but, but how it ended. I have also loved others who eventually felt I was not right for them. Rarely have I loved someone who I decided not to be with. Isn’t that odd.

I would LOVE to find a beautiful woman who I enjoy being around and can get to know just as I know myself. I am confident she is out there but for now I haven’t found her yet. I am only 33 and know I have plenty of life left on this earth, but would like to spend the majority of it not alone. This is not a plea for someone to pick me up off my feet. It is a desire, not a need. I don’t ‘need’ to be in a relationship. I feel if you ever think you ‘need to’ be in a relationship, then you ‘need to’ be single for a while until you figure out why you think that is a need.

Morning 5-minute Random Babble

Side note: In prison, the worst punishment they can give someone is solitary confinement. That should tell you that we as humans are social creatures meant to be around other people. That means in a group as a whole, and in our private lives as well.

Executive Order

Executive Order: a rule or order issued by the president to an executive branch of the government and having the force of law.

Regardless of your opinion on executive orders, they are a part of our government. I recently found out about a recent executive order enacted by President Obama. It changes exempt and non-exempt employment for salary employees.

On the graph on the left you can see number of executive orders from previous Presidents.

Some people see this as a good thing. Basically the number is $47,476 per year. If you make less than that you are non-exempt. Non-exempt from overtime. This could prevent places like Walmart from hiring managers at less yearly salaries and requiring them to work more than 40 hours. This also means for other jobs that don’t operate on a 40 hour work week that it would change how they operate daily.

I have worked in IT since I left the Army and not once did I only work around a 8-5 clock schedule. Now, as of December 1st, 2016, I will be required to clock in for day, out for lunch, and out for day. This means I must use my 8 hours daily to a higher efficiency. I don’t have a problem with being more efficient. I just know it will lead to me not doing work after hours. I will have to get approval for any overtime. I am sure it will be granted if the need is there.

At a previous job this would have been nice because I was on call every other night and every other weekend. This would mean that I would be paid over time for any hours after 40 in a week. There was almost no time that I was on call time that didn’t require some time. I always said that it was much cheaper for IT personnel to be salary because it would break the bank for the company. Personally, I would prefer a static paycheck than one that changes. It is much easier to build a budget.

I am grateful now for my job and I still love what I do. I just see that nation-wide in the IT community it will change things. There will be stricter guidelines for what is truly meant as an after-hours call to IT for an “emergency.” I am curious what my other fellow IT friends think about this. If you are a one-man operation it doesn’t impact you. If you work in a corporate environment it impacts you deeply. Because my boss is a manager of several employees he is still considered exempt and he stated today that he would have to pick up more slack after hours and on the weekend.

Check out the article above that list the stipulations for this change and let me know what you think? I am curious to hear from other industries as well.

For those who will be getting a raise to put them over the minimum $47,476 per year, I am sure you are grateful. How’s that for a national minimum wage? It’s not exactly jumping up from the current $7.25/hr (Current as of 11/17/16), but it does require companies to take a hard look at staffing needs.